2020年1月18日 星期六

How Helicopter Parenting Backfires

Also: why this flu season is such a doozy.
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.

“Intensive parenting” doesn’t just exhaust parents — that helicopter-style of hovering may be bad for kids. As Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson wrote, being a good mom or dad is “not about reading all the parenting best sellers or signing your kids up for all the right activities. You don’t even have to know exactly what you’re doing. Just show up.”

In other news, here’s how and when to talk to your kids about current events and tips to prevent and treat the flu, which is hitting kids particularly hard this season. Plus, Hilda Hutcherson, a professor and ob-gyn, wrote about how uterine fibroids disproportionately affect black women, and Lizzie Skurnick gave us a wrenching essay about her mom, who was diagnosed with dementia when her son was a baby.

Thanks for reading!

— Jessica Grose, lead editor, NYT Parenting

P.S. Was your baby in the NICU? We want to hear about your experiences.

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Francesco Ciccolella

Do You Really ‘See’ Your Child?

One of the best predictors for how any child turns out is having received sensitive, supportive care early in life.

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Mike Ellis

This Flu Season Is Looking Rough for Kids

Type B flu strains, which can be particularly brutal for little ones, are showing up earlier this year.

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Tiago Majuelos

Is The News Too Scary for Kids?

Comfort your child, and provide context.

Chioma Ebinama

Black Women Are Hit Hardest by Fibroid Tumors

Black women receive diagnoses of fibroids roughly three times as frequently as white women.

via Lizzie Skurnick

Watching My Son Grow, and My Mom Return to Childhood

“Last month, a few days before we finally put my mother into a home, I sat on the couch between her and my 6-year-old son, one asleep on each shoulder. Both had peed in their pants.”

Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let’s celebrate the tiny victories.
When my twins were toddlers, they hated wearing jackets and would take them off almost immediately, regardless of the weather. One especially cold day I had an epiphany, put their jackets on backwards, and zipped them up their backs. Jackets stayed on the whole outing! — Shawnda Fukano, Seattle

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