2020年10月31日 星期六

Creepy Kids and Changing the Clocks: The Week in Parenting

Happy Halloween … I guess?
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.
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This week, NYT Parenting reporter Christina Caron explored a burning spooky-season question: Why are our children so darn creepy? She talked to parents whose kids told them things like, “I wouldn’t sleep in your bedroom if I were you,” because “skeleton men” haunted their creaky old house. Christina also talked to psychologists who explained that our terrifying children are developmentally normal. “It’s a way of them expressing their fears,” Sandra Russ, a child psychologist, said. “Adults talk it out; children play it out.”


We asked readers for stories of their children being extremely creepy, and boy did you all deliver. Here’s a sampling:

My 2-year-old sometimes looks out the window into the backyard and says, “I know she’s out there.” When we asked who “she” is, he just ignores us. This has happened multiple times. —Rachel Wynia, Greenville, S.C.

When my son Milo was 3, he started talking about a being named Ifigowa who came to visit him sometimes. Ifigowa lived far away and wasn’t a kid or an adult, but he had a yellow face and black eyes. This went on for months — we’d hear Milo chatting to him when he played with toys. He didn’t seem scared. One day I asked him who Ifigowa was and, very casually, Milo said, “Oh, he’s just my master.” — Natalie Ponte, Weston, Conn.

Went to the pumpkin patch and my 5-year-old exclaims upon entering, “This looks like a good place to set a fire!” — Natalie Lambert, Fontana, Calif.

Do you have sinister kid stories of your own? Share them in the comments.

Also on the Halloween front: Dani Blum has advice for how to trick-or-treat safely and Kimberly Rex has an essay about what it’s like to be a medically high-risk mom forced to make agonizing decisions between your own health and your child’s crushing disappointment.

We also have a couple of pieces about education this week, including a feature from Amelia Nierenberg about how schools across the country are using outdoor space to expand their classrooms, and some advice from Lisa Damour, our adolescence columnist, for parents whose teens are losing motivation during this bizarre school year.


Adding to the creepiness of Halloween, a full moon will appear Saturday. Nicholas St. Fleur is here with a guide to stargazing with your kids, including this true tidbit your children will love: “Uranus does smell like farts.”

It’s also the end of daylight saving time. We have expert guidance from Craig Canapari, the director of the pediatric sleep center at Yale-New Haven Hospital, on how to prep your little ones for the time change this weekend, without bedtime going completely off the rails.

Finally, as if anyone could forget, Tuesday Nov. 3 is Election Day. Melinda Wenner Moyer has advice on how to talk to your kids about election stress.

Thanks for reading.

— Jessica Grose, columnist, NYT Parenting


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Janik Söllner

Forget Halloween. Children Are Frightening Year-Round.

Why little kids have a special ability to creep out their parents.

By Christina Caron

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Trick-or-Treating This Year? Here’s How

Depending on the incidence of coronavirus in your community, it may be safe to trick-or-treat in a modified way.

By Dani Blum

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Sonia Pulido

For a High Risk-Mom, Halloween Feels Extra Tricky

Another pandemic holiday means another impossible decision between my health and my children’s happiness.

By Kimberly Rex

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Andrea Morales for The New York Times

Classrooms Without Walls, and Hopefully Covid

To combat the coronavirus, schools across America moved students outdoors. Here’s a look at four new learning environments.

By Amelia Nierenberg

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Giacomo Bagnara

How to Prepare Babies and Kids for the End of Daylight Saving Time

For parents of small children, ‘falling back’ doesn’t mean an extra hour in bed. But the right plan can help ease the change.

By Craig Canapari, M.D.

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Fran Caballero


How to Do School When Motivation Has Gone Missing

Here’s what teenagers can do to equip themselves to move forward during this difficult and frustrating time.

By Lisa Damour

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Jon Han

How To See the Halloween Blue Moon (and Uranus!) With Your Kids

“The Uranus jokes never end,” an astronomer said.

By Nicholas St. Fleur

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Giulia Sagramola

How to Talk About the Election With Your Kids

Even if you’re stressed.

By Melinda Wenner Moyer


Tiny Victories

Parenting can be a grind. Let’s celebrate the tiny victories.

I discovered that my 4-year-old will practice writing their letters without complaining if I put on Halloween-themed music to set the mood. No whining, complaining or bargaining about “school time” today! Nicole Rogers, Madison, Wisconsin

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2020年10月30日 星期五

The Daily:

We look back on a year in the field (and share a big announcement).
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The Daily: Live Election Day Broadcast

Well, we’re four days away from the election and we have no idea what’s going to happen. What will day-of turnout look like? Will vote counting go as planned? And how will President Trump respond to it all? Not sure! But you can find out in real time with us. Because we’re going LIVE.

On Tuesday, we’ll be hosting our first-ever live broadcast of The Daily. Michael Barbaro and Carolyn Ryan, The Times’s deputy managing editor, will be in the studio for the first time in months, talking to reporters and voters scattered across the country to make sense of what’s happening on Election Day. The broadcast will be available only on our website, so tune in at nytimes.com/thedaily on Nov. 3 from 4 to 8 p.m. Eastern time.

Before then, you can catch up on episodes you may have missed with our audio guide to the election. And, in the spirit of Halloween, listen to this spooky remix of Michael’s intro on The Daily, brought to you by our composer Dan Powell.

Also, this week is the last chance to share your thoughts on this newsletter. What would you like to see more (or less) of each week? Take this quick three-minute survey to make your voice heard.


Looking back at The Field

The states we visited in the making of The Field (purple arrows represent battleground states). As the producer Andy Mills said, “Had it not been for this dang plague there’d have been even more arrows and states!”Jonathan Corum

The weirdness started in the hallway of a Des Moines Marriott.

In February, the producer Clare Toeniskoetter was sitting on the floor outside of The Times’s Iowa caucus conference room, deep in the flow state required to make an episode of The Daily in just a few hours. Then the news broke that the app reporting the caucus results had failed. “Everyone was jaw-dropped and making phone calls trying to figure out what went wrong,” Clare said.


We thought that night would be a fluke. Looking back, it was an apt kickoff for the chaos that followed.

While we started off the year with well-made plans (we were going to send producers every week into the field! We wanted to visit dozens of states!), those logistics were sent through the garbage disposal of 2020, just like everything else.

So in March, we called one another from our couches and charted out new (and virtual) ways to meet voters across the country. Away from the office, some relocating to new cities or hometowns, our producers working from Florida to Minnesota found themselves tapped to be local reporters, covering protests and swing states with new proximity.

All told, we still made it to 16 states. We saw the stakes change, stump speeches rewritten and a Supreme Court transformed. We met union members, protesters and the ladies of Red, Wine and Blue. Along the way, we played slots, sang “Les Mis” and cracked cold beers in unfamiliar hotel rooms to decompress.


This week, as we’re approaching the end of our journey through the field for the 2020 campaign cycle, we spoke with suburban women in Ohio, gun owners in Washington State and retirement home residents in Florida. As Election Day nears closer, we asked our producers to share a few of their favorite moments from this year:

I loved being able to tell the story of the Culinary Workers Union, whose members are the invisible glue that holds the glitz of Vegas together. They include cooks, cleaners and bartenders. They fought tooth and nail for the benefits they have, which involved a worker strike in the ’90s that lasted for six years. The city is much less glamorous when you peel back the curtain. — Austin Mitchell

Austin and Jennifer Medina outside the headquarters of the Culinary Workers Union in Las Vegas.Clare Toeniskoetter/The New York Times

I remember landing in Massachusetts with Austin with no plan but a rumor that Elizabeth Warren was going to drop out of the race. Austin had Googled Warren’s home and we Uber-ed there. As we pulled up, we found ourselves in the eye of a press storm. I knew we needed to speak to a longtime Warren supporter to help us understand the weight of this moment. I looked through old articles in a local newspaper and found the name of Lyn Licciardello. I gave her a call, catching her right before she was heading out of town. A few hours later, we were in her living room, listening to her cry as she reflected on Warren’s campaign. “All the people who were behind Elizabeth wanted to see a woman prevail,” Lyn said. — Jessica Cheung

Jessica and Astead W. Herndon interviewing Lyn after Warren dropped out of the Democratic presidential primary race.
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My favorite moment from the field was actually something that didn’t make it into the episode. We were with our main character, Julius Irving, a former felon who was vote canvassing, and he walked up to a woman who seemed resistant to hearing what he had to say. After a brief back and forth, he apologized for bothering her, and then all of a sudden, it was like the wall she had put up came crumbling down. She told him she had recently lost her granddaughter in an accident, and they stood there for a while talking about life and loss and the importance of community support. By the end of the conversation, she told Julius to knock on her door if he ever needed anything. It had nothing to do with voting or politics, but it was a beautiful moment of humanity between two strangers. — Rachel Quester

Answering your questions about the Electoral College

Last week, Jesse Wegman walked us through the history of the Electoral College. In the episode, we explored its origins and complexities, and recounted how, in the 1960s, it was almost replaced with a national popular vote.

Some of you had questions about the issues raised in the episode, so we put them to Jesse.

Jesse is a member of The Times’s editorial board, and the answers below are his own opinions. While we rarely have columnists and opinion writers on The Daily, we sometimes make exceptions for subject-matter experts, as Michael Barbaro explained here.

Q. Why can’t states decide to give their own electoral votes proportionally to reflect their own state’s voting? If each state did this, wouldn’t that achieve the same goal and be easier?

A. Awarding electors proportionally sounds good in theory, but in practice it wouldn’t improve the presidential election for several reasons.

First, it would not eliminate the risk that the popular vote loser could become president. Second, all 50 states would have to adopt this method for it to work, which they would not do. Third, it would continue to distort the popular vote in smaller states. How would you divvy up, say, the three electoral votes in Alaska, which is currently polling at about 53-45 percent in favor of Trump? If you divided electoral votes into fractions and awarded them proportionally, you would get very close to a reflection of the national popular vote. But this would only be possible through a constitutional amendment abolishing the office of elector, because electors are human beings and can’t be divided into fractions.

Q. The way the Electoral College works now puts a lot of focus on the swing states. If we move to a national popular vote, wouldn’t political campaigning just shift to urban population centers at the expense of more sparsely populated rural areas. Are there proposals out there for a third way?

A. For starters, America’s biggest cities don’t come close to having enough votes to determine the outcome of a national election. It would make no sense for campaigns to spend all their time in those cities, and they don’t. If you look at how campaigns are currently conducted in statewide elections (say, for governor or for president in a battleground state), you see that they work to win votes everywhere — in cities, suburbs, towns and rural areas. That’s the tried-and-true strategy in an election where every vote counts the same and the candidate who gets the most votes wins. Candidates know that even if they won’t win a given region, they can aim to lose it by less, and that can make all the difference.

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