2020年10月24日 星期六

Battling the Winter Scaries

Ways to stay safe as the weather gets colder.
A roundup of new guidance and stories from NYT Parenting.
Golden Cosmos

This week was rough for me, but I couldn’t pinpoint a particular reason for my doldrums. My kids are in a decent groove with remote school, seeming to be learning something despite my ongoing frustration with the million bizarrely named apps they need. Everyone close to me is safe and healthy for now, and there’s news that schools seem unlikely to be sources of coronavirus surges. I would call that a 2020 win. So why have I felt a scrim of dread enveloping me since the Sunday scaries took hold? I think it’s because winter is coming, and, as Christina Caron, our Parenting reporter, points out in a new piece, virus cases are climbing toward a third peak.


But don’t fret! Christina has five suggestions for how families can stay safe and healthy during the oncoming cold months in the northern half of the country — one of which is making sure everyone in your family has a flu shot. There have been scattered reports of pharmacies running out of flu vaccines because of increased demand this year (I witnessed a CVS in Brooklyn run out for the day around 1 p.m.), so calling ahead might be worthwhile.

Also new this week, we have an essential guide by Erica Chidi, a doula and the founder of a sexual health website, and Dr. Erica Cahill, an Ob-Gyn, about how Black women can protect their births and postnatal care. Black women and their babies are much more likely to die in childbirth than their white counterparts, and medical racism is a tragic reality that care providers need to acknowledge and eradicate. “This guide is meant to help Black women feel safer, and to provide a modern framework for medical providers to actively address their own racism,” they write.

We have a piece from Jancee Dunn about the importance of practicing active listening, which is “expressing verbal and nonverbal interest in what the person is saying, paraphrasing, and asking the person to elaborate.” Though we are all just a teeny bit sick of our loved ones, it’s worth going the extra mile to really hear them out, for the sake of familial harmony. Alex Williams looks at children who are anxious about leaving the house because of coronavirus fears, and gives advice for quelling those concerns.

Ever wondered about the science behind your child’s tantrums? Explained. Want ideas for a safe and spooky Halloween? Here ya go! Trying to decide whether it’s still safe to send your kid to day care? We can help. Wondering why politicians don’t seem very concerned about schools right now? So are we!


For an upcoming newsletter, we’re focusing on rest, and how to get it at a time when it seems completely impossible. I have spoken to so many of you who are waking up in the wee hours just to get your work done and your kids managed. Do you have creative ways of finding peace and quiet? Please drop us a line here.

Thanks for reading!

— Jessica Grose, lead editor, NYT Parenting


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Rose Wong

5 Ways Families Can Prepare as Coronavirus Cases Surge

As winter approaches, we still need to be vigilant about taking precautions.

By Christina Caron

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Xia Gordon

Protecting Your Birth: A Guide For Black Mothers

How racism can impact your pre- and postnatal care — and advice for speaking to your Ob-Gyn about it.

By Erica Chidi and Erica P. Cahill, M.D.

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Till Lauer

Become a Better Listener. Your Family Will Thank You.

Effective communication skills are more important than ever in our close-quarters existence.

By Jancee Dunn

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Illustration by Tracy Ma/The New York Times

Generation Agoraphobia

After months of lockdown, adults just want to get out of the house. For some children, the issue is more fraught.

By Alex Williams

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Armando Veve

The Science Behind Your Child’s Tantrums

And how to nip them in the bud before they start.

By Ashley Abramson

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Dominic Kesterton

How to Have a Safe and Still Spooky Halloween

Scavenger hunts, outdoor movie screenings and other ideas to have a safe holiday on Oct. 31.

By Alexandra E. Petri

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Francesco Ciccolella

Can I Safely Send My Kid to Day Care? We Asked the Experts

As states struggle with reopening, parents are scrambling to figure out child care amid a fall surge of coronavirus.

By Emily Sohn

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Todd Heisler/The New York Times

Parents Are Worried About Schools. Are the Candidates?

The pandemic has made education a top issue for many voters. But you wouldn’t know that from the candidates’ stump speeches.

By Abby Goodnough


Tiny Victories

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We’ve been having after-dinner dance parties. We put on loud music and our 4-year old dances around while we do the dishes. He gets out some remaining energy before bed ,and we get some entertainment while cleaning up. — Nicole Davis, Des Moines, Wash.

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