2021年9月1日 星期三

The T List: Six things we recommend this week

Home décor from Dolce & Gabbana, a Brutalist eatery — and more.

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Art Deco Splendor in the City of Light

Left: a Deluxe Junior Suite at the Cheval Blanc Paris. Right: a table at its Plénitude restaurant.Alexandre Tabaste

By Noor Brara

T Contributor

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Located in the heart of the city, the new Cheval Blanc Paris has 72 rooms, with balconies or winter gardens looking out either on the Pont Neuf or the picturesque rooftops of the 1st Arrondissement and beyond. The hotel, set in a 1928 Art Deco building designed by Henri Sauvage and reimagined by the architect and interior decorator Peter Marino, feels like a grand but familiar home, with sculptural chandeliers by Philippe Anthonioz, engraved metallic tables by André Dubreuil and wood sideboards by Charlotte Perriand. Guests are surrounded by art, including works by Claude Lalanne and Vik Muniz, while the property has no fewer than four restaurants: Limbar, a café and bar offering light-as-air pastries by Maxime Frédéric and a cocktail program by Florian Thireau; Le Tout-Paris, a not-so-classic brasserie; the more formal Plénitude, with the Michelin-starred chef Arnaud Donckele at the helm; and the fourth will be the seafood restaurant Langosteria's first outpost outside of Italy. In between meals, guests might sit in the terrace garden or take a dip in the indoor pool, which features an aqua-colored mosaic by the Munich-based artist Franz Mayer and, at 30 meters long, is the largest in town. chevalblanc.com.

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Jessica Richards's Beauty Regimen

Left: Jessica Richards, founder of Shen Beauty. Right (clockwise from top left): Joaquina Botanica Hydrating Essence, $54. Supracor Stimulite Bath Mitt, $36. Augustinus Bader The Body Cream, $165. Nécessaire The Body Exfoliator, $30. Manta hairbrush, $34. Bynacht Nocturnal Signature Anti-Age Cream, $205. Vyrao Witchy Woo, $190. Irene Forte Almond Cleansing Milk, $89. Virtue The Polish Un-Frizz Cream, $40. Ideo Skin Memory Serum, $175. All available at shen-beauty.com.Portrait: Yumi Matsuo. Products: courtesy of the brands.

Interview by Caitie Kelly

For this month's installment of the T List's beauty column, which details the products and treatments that creative people swear by, Jessica Richards speaks about her daily routine.

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For my morning shower I use Necessaire's Body Exfoliator with the Supracor Stimulite Bath Mitt — it's a loofah and dry brush in one — Christophe Robin's Brightening + Clarifying Shampoo (which they are discontinuing, so I'm not sure what I'll do!) and Virtue's Recovery Conditioner. I have incredibly dry skin, so when I dry off I leave it a bit damp and rub in a bit of Olverum's Body Oil and then Augustinus Bader's Body Cream. I brush my hair with a Manta hairbrush — Shen, my beauty store, debuted it recently; it's the best thing on the planet: The more you use it, the less your hair falls out — and comb in a tiny bit of Virtue's Un-Frizz Cream before putting it in a bun. I don't wash my face in the morning, I just rinse with water. Then I apply Irene Forte's Helichrysum Hyaluronic Toner and the Skin Memory Serum from Ideo, which we just launched. Going into fall, I'll start using Bynacht's Nocturnal Signature Anti-Age Cream (yes, even during the day). For makeup, I use Eye Love You Mascara from Westman Atelier and a lipstick from Maarks Lip in Rouge unless I'm wearing a mask, then I'll wear Cherry Chapstick. I always go back to Bobbi Brown's Long-Wear Gel Eyeliner in black; it goes on easily and doesn't smudge. I like eyeliner underneath my lashes so that it adds a bit of definition. We have a service at Shen called Multeye: tattooing underneath your lash line, a brow wax, tint and a few microblading strokes. I do it every nine months. For fragrance, I'm obsessed with Dirty Grass from Heretic and Witchy Woo from Yasmine Sewell's new brand Vyrao, which will be available at Shen this month. At night, my number-one priority is to get all the dirt and grime off with a foaming cleanser like Youth to the People's Superfood Cleanser or Reflekt's Daily Exfoliating Face Wash, and then I apply an oil or balm cleanser. Irene Forte's Almond Cleansing Milk is super-calming, but I also love Joaquina Botanica's Hydrating Essence. For serums, I go super-heavy. I use Ideo at night too — if you use it twice a day, you really see the results. After that, I layer on something like the Supernal Cosmic Glow Oil or Pai Carbon Star if I feel like I might be getting a bit of a breakout. I like Dr. Barbara Sturm's Eye Cream — I have very sensitive eyes, and it doesn't have any added fragrance. Finally, I use MBR's Cream Extraordinary; I need as much hydration as I can get. I layer and coat and go to bed looking like a glazed doughnut.

This interview has been edited and condensed.

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La Dolce Casa

From left: Dolce & Gabbana Casa's Carretto chair with brass fittings and handblown Murano-glass goblet.Courtesy of Dolce & Gabbana

By Zoe Ruffner

T Contributor

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When Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana began self-isolating in Milan at the start of the Covid-19 outbreak last spring, the fashion designers found themselves turning their attention to their immediate surroundings. "We kept coming back to the idea of the home as the most important space," say the couple, who spent the time dreaming up Dolce & Gabbana Casa, the brand's first décor range. It was partly inspired by the work of some of their favorite talents, including Paul Evans and Gio Ponti ("I collect furniture I love; it's my only vice," says Dolce). The end result, though, which was unveiled this past weekend ahead of the brand's Alta Moda show in Venice, is entirely their own — and is deeply rooted in Italian craftsmanship. Four of the brand's iconic motifs appear throughout the line, as with a leopard-print armchair and matching side table, a comfy-looking couch reminiscent of blue-and-white Maiolica and various desk accessories that feature a print depicting a traditional Sicilian horse-drawn cart. dolcegabbana.com.

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Noguchi's Greek Inheritance

Objects of Common Interest's "Tube Light I" (2019) at left and "Tube Light II" (2019) at right, installed among Isamu Noguchi's basalt and manazaru stone sculptures.Photo: Brian W. Ferry. Artworks © Objects of Common Interest and © The Isamu Noguchi Foundation and Garden Museum/Artists Rights Society.

By Kurt Soller

Two or so years ago, when the 39-year-old designers and architects Eleni Petaloti and Leonidas Trampoukis of the cerebral design studio Objects of Common Interest learned of the 20th-century Japanese American artist Isamu Noguchi's connection to their native Greece — he once described it as his "intellectual home" — they were immediately inspired. The couple, who split their time between New York City and Athens, began researching the digital archives of the Noguchi Museum in Long Island City, Queens, to create an online feature and a forthcoming set of books on Noguchi's Greek influences. Now this aesthetic fascination has been brought to life with "Hard, Soft and All Lit Up With Nowhere to Go," a new exhibit organized by the Noguchi Museum's senior curator Dakin Hart, opening on September 15. By blending OoCI's playful objects (tubular lights and chairs, arcing cobalt formations, massive transparent inflatable sculptures that wobble in the wind) with Noguchi's own pieces, the show creates deep connections — between eras, places and creatives; between the increasingly blurry fields of art, design and architecture — that speak above all to the power of constant cultural exchange. "Between Noguchi and ourselves, we're both examining concepts like light, weight and volume," Petaloti says, "but we're answering in different ways." noguchi.org.

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Cavernous Cuisine

Forest restaurant at the Paris Museum of Modern Art.Alexandre Tabaste

By Gisela Williams

T Contributing Editor

The 27-year-old architect Julien Sebban, founder of the French design collective Uchronia, had a postapocalyptic vision when he visited the site of the Paris Museum of Modern Art's future restaurant, Forest, a couple of years ago. A remnant of the 1937 Universal Exhibition, the high-ceilinged concrete space looked to him like a subterranean Brutalist lair. Sebban and his team decided to embrace the atmosphere, creating a bunkerlike agora with surfaces of polished concrete that become rougher the farther one ventures within. The overall effect, however, is one of warmth and comfort, with walls covered in a thicket of vines and mossy boughs and the soft glow of moonlike volcanic-stone sconces. Though Forest might look like the end of the world, Sebban says, it's actually a "really nice place to be." forest-paris.com.

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The Scent of Palace Intrigue

Left: the full cast of characters in Ginori 1735's La Compagnia di Caterina. Right: the Lover candles.Matthieu Lavanchy

By Eleonore Condo

T Contributor

The inspirations behind Luca Nichetto's designs for Ginori 1735's first home fragrance collection, La Compagnia di Caterina, are as multilayered as the scents. Though the theme is the court of Catherine de' Medici, the infamous queen credited with introducing perfume to the French when she brought her perfumer with her to Paris from Florence, Nichetto was also influenced by lucha libre masks, Baz Luhrmann's "Romeo + Juliet" and ­­Jean-Paul Goude's portraits of Grace Jones. "A lot of my loves are in this project," he says. The result is a boldly designed collection of scented candles, incense burners and room diffusers with fragrances by Jean Niel, the oldest perfume house in France. Each item is cast in the form of one of eight archetypal courtiers, including the Lover and the Scholar, and nearly all can be refilled with the same or different scent, creating what the company calls an "afterlife." From $90, ginori1735.com.

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Where the Props Live

An image from Jasper Fry's exhibition "Prop Houses" at Act One Cinema in London.Jasper Fry

Over the past months, the British photographer Jasper Fry has made trips to a loose scattering of warehouses located mostly on the outskirts of London. Filled with everything from Victorian furniture to out-of-date medical equipment to neoclassical busts, these are the city's prop houses, repositories of objects used in film and television. Each is constantly in flux, as pieces are checked in and out. "They're conveyor belts," says Fry. "No room is the same from one week to the next; I liked that transience. However, they're also curated to appeal to the eye." He was drawn, too, to their unique themes. A prop master might visit one for its collection of midcentury American jukeboxes, another for its array of replica Ming vases. There are few things that can't be found. "Each has its own idiosyncrasies," says Fry, "from the grand passages lined with suits of armor in Farley, to the creaking townhouse floorboards of the Lacquer Chest and the constructed hospital walls of Curious Science. They're much more than simple display vessels; they reflect decades of research and care." His images of six prop houses will be on display in an exhibition at Act One Cinema in London from Aug. 27 until Sept. 5. For more, visit tmagazine.com — and follow us on Instagram.

Correction: Last week's newsletter misstated the frequency with which the magazine Mother Tongue is published. It is biannual, not quarterly.

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The Secret to Raising a Resilient Kid

The ability to bounce back is more important now than ever; here's how to impart it.

The Secret to Raising a Resilient Kid

By Erik Vance

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In my early teens, my dad took myself, my best friend and our neighbor on a grueling backpacking trip connecting California's Yosemite Valley to Half Dome to nearby Clouds Rest mountain and back again.

By the second day — halfway up Clouds Rest, on wobbly legs and besieged by mosquitoes — we finally mutinied. The three of us made it clear to my father that we were done. Nobody had heard of Clouds Rest and nobody had the juice to see the top.

"OK, I understand," I remember Dad saying. "You guys stay here. Erik, let's go."

There was no point arguing. Even today, my only memory of the top of Clouds Rest is the blue sky I saw flat on my back, panting and praying for a speedy death. Later, of course, I described the hike as an epic victory of teenager over nature. Which, I suspect, is why my dad pushed me to do it.

Whether he knew it or not, Dad was a big believer in the concept of resilience, the ability to engage with a challenge, risk or impediment, and come out the other side with some measure of success. It's a psychological principle blending optimism, flexibility, problem-solving and motivation. It's the job you got through pure determination, the game you eked out against a far better team or the mountaintop that made you want to strangle your father. Dad called it "character."

"It is about the ability to bounce back even when times get tough. But that implies it's only about survival," said Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg, a pediatrician and the author of the American Academy of Pediatrics's book "Building Resilience in Children and Teens." "Resilient people not only bounce back, but also thrive in the best of times."

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Never has resilience — be it physical, mental, emotional or financial — been more important to our society than in the past year and a half, and never have I been so determined to pass it on to my son. He may not climb mountains, but life will always have a disaster, disappointment or pandemic to throw his way. If he can't roll with the punches, his life will be very, very hard.

Thankfully, most experts say resiliency is something that can be fostered, nurtured and developed in children from a very young age. You just have to build a safe foundation, find challenges and watch kids thrive.

Build a stable, safe foundation.

Creating resilience in children isn't just chucking them into the deep end of a pool to see if they can swim, it's about the bedrock of support you give them every day.

"Having a relationship with a caring parent is far and away the most powerful protective factor for children," said Ann Masten, a psychology professor at the University of Minnesota and a pioneer in the study of resiliency in children.

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Children need to feel they have a stable home base before they can take risks and learn to bounce back. If a child skins her elbow falling off a bike, the best way to help her get back on is to make sure she knows she's loved no matter what.

Dr. Masten said resilience is less a specific trait and more a network of overlapping ones, like flexibility, confidence and even societal supports, like health care and schooling. But the crucial part is that children feel safe and supported. In order to weather a storm, you need a solid shelter.

Model behaviors for your kid.

Part of teaching your child to be resilient is first projecting resilience yourself.

"You're on a plane, there's turbulence — you don't look at the guy next to you who's hysterical," Dr. Ginsburg said. "You look at the flight attendants, to see if they're still serving snack mix."

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Losing your temper when a child refuses to go to sleep, breaks your grandmother's heirloom teapot or just freaking can't get out the door in the morning, only tells him that it's useful to have a fit when something goes wrong.

It can be hard, especially when you know he's misbehaving, but regulating your own emotions goes a long way to teaching your child to do the same.

"You are always teaching by how you handle things yourself," Dr. Masten said. "What parents do when they get upset, their kids are observing that."

Make the most of small challenges.

If you put the word "resilience" on a poster, it would probably be under a photo of someone climbing a mountain, fighting a forest fire or perhaps tending to patients in a Covid ward. But, in fact, it's the small disappointments or frustrating moments that truly build resilience.

Let's say your child comes home from school with an "F" in math, and you know he didn't work hard on that assignment. Rather than making it clear you think he's lazy, focus on cause and effect — he didn't study and was thus unprepared — and how he can do better next time. Cause and effect can be controlled, and having a sense of control is a core element of resilience.

Help your child stretch herself.

Once a kid feels safe, supported and has a good model of resilience, it's time to challenge her a little.

For Tyler Fish, resilience is a delicate balance between success and failure. Mr. Fish works for the outdoor education company Outward Bound, helping set educational priorities for, say, youth backpacking, dog-sledding or canoeing trips across the world. A 25-year veteran of the company and former instructor, he said that resilience is a principle that helps them change the lives of kids from all kinds of backgrounds.

"It's not just about being tough — that's not resiliency," Mr. Fish said. "It's about doing things that you're not sure you can do. And with other people."

When teaching canoeing, for instance, he starts by putting a kid into a boat to see if she can figure it out. Then, after a little frustration, he gives some instruction and lets her try again. Then he repeats the cycle, so that she can balance success and failure. It's the same for other lessons, like making friends, teamwork or leadership.

"One of the great skills of parenting is knowing how to challenge, when to challenge, how much to challenge," Dr. Masten said. "There's no one right way to foster resilience, just like there's no one right way to parent."

Three weeks ago I had a perfect opportunity to teach resilience to my 5-year-old son. We had reserved a campground in Colorado's Rocky Mountain National Park about four miles from the trailhead. I thought about my dad, and those mornings picking rocks out of oatmeal after two days on the trail.

When we arrived, we learned that the next 48 hours would be plagued with thunderstorms, downpours and even a flood warning. We could trudge for hours through the rain, set up a miserable camp and shiver in the tent to get warm — what a fantastic opportunity to build resilience!

But those treasured trips of my youth, my wife reminded me, were in my teens and our kindergartner just wants to be on vacation with his parents. So we canceled the hike, went to the zoo and spent a night in a nice hotel watching a superhero movie. We'll save the downpour death march for another time. Teaching resilience, it seems, has its limits.

To learn more about coping with kids, Covid and back-to-school, join Tara Parker-Pope, the Times's Well columnist, on Sept. 1 at 2 p.m. E.S.T. for a New York Times Instagram live conversation with Lisa Damour, an adolescent therapist and Times columnist. They'll be taking your questions, sharing the latest science and offering guidance for parents and families navigating the uncertainty of pandemic back-to-school.

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My 6-year-old has decided he loves the game "vacuum monster," where I vacuum the living-room floor and, occasionally, try to get his toes. The other day he volunteered to pick up all the toys on the floor so we could play. — Cara Leone, New London, N.H.

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